Category Archives: Relationships

What is your argument REALLY about?

Why do we keep having stupid arguments? Death by a thousand cuts – that’s what those recurring, seemingly insignificant arguments might be doing to your relationship. Clients so often tell me, “We argue about the stupidest things!” Well, maybe. Or, maybe what you are actually arguing about is something else, something important, but you are […]

Tell-Tale Signs Of Trouble: Predicting Divorce

It’s not that hard to predict divorce. It’s actually fairly easy.  What’s hard is recognizing when you are in the “danger zone” and, harder still, to do something about it.  Just because you have the symptoms of a troubled marriage does not mean there is no cure.  Couples therapy, workshops, retreats, books, and even helpful […]

What’s a Love Language and Why You Should Care

Hidden Misunderstandings It’s possible you can love someone and they don’t feel it.  Or vice versa. This can be hard to understand, and too often we find out years, decades, a whole lifetime too late. The idea is captured in a popular book titled “Five Love Languages,” by author Gary Chapman.  It’s a great tool for […]

Are You Being Gaslighted?

It Starts With A Lie Have you ever felt like someone was trying to cover up a lie by making you think you were crazy?  It could be a friend, a spouse, a coworker, or anyone you deal with on a regular basis.  Did it make you question yourself?  Deliberately trying to make someone think […]